In the mood for love stuff

Just a few pretty things to enjoy looking at (or buying):

Love sign language print

Love vase set

Hand heart sculpture

Heart initial stacking rings

Pink heart candle

I said never and now I have two guinea pigs

Ads for this print keep showing up in all of my social media:

GP art print

We're guinea pig people now. I said, "absolutely not, rodents aren't pets" and now Buttercup and Juniper are living their best lives in my basement.

I have a child who is crazy about animals. She is passionate, knowledgeable, caring and concerned about every damn animal in the entire kingdom. I'm not frustrated about those things at all; in fact I'm super proud of her. It's really wonderful to see your child so passionate about something. So despite my initial irk, I'll admit these two little furballs are starting to grow on me.

Of course they are WAY MORE WORK (for me) than anyone wanted to admit when they first joined our family. But given the choices I was presented -- "Mom, I REALLY want a horse. Or backyard chickens. Cats? Okay, fine I'll settle for two guinea pigs." -- this seemed to be a fairly straightforward decision.

I'm choosing to focus on the benefits of kids caring for pets. The empathy for other living things, the knowledge of the animal's special needs, the responsibility of taking care of them (we have room to grow here).

On average they live six to eight years, which gets us almost through high school (<mind blown>). And on a whole, they have been a net positive for our family. It's even kinda nice to have two little buddies who will happily eat organic greens with me.

I should probably order that art print.

Juniper and Buttercup

GP footprint Xmas ornaments (I paid for these)

People give you these kinds of gifts when you have GPs

Hundreds line up for guinea pig cleansing ritual in Peru.

Eight ways to stay hydrated. Worth reading; I came up with only one: drink water.

Ways to combat the effects of alcohol on the skin. Also a worthwhile read; I came up with: drink less alcohol. Do guinea pigs make me snarky?

Think pink. 10 best pink lipsticks right now.

Ten reasons NOT to get guinea pigs.... (it's a trick! You'll definitely get guinea pigs if you watch this!)

Today is a day "on"

I was born years after Martin Luther King, Jr., was assassinated. It wasn't a news event that I recall where I was and what I was doing when it happened, like when the Challenger exploded. I learned about MLK, Jr., in school and over the years developed a fuller understanding of his life and work and message.

I grew up in a suburb of St. Paul that was largely caucasian and middle- to upper-middle-class. I got a great early education at our local public schools from teachers who pushed us and with families who supported us. Our community felt mostly safe and accessible and offered us young people the chance to explore our little world without much fear of something bad happening to us. And to my fairly sheltered 17-year-old mind, the world was probably mostly like this in most places. 

This many years later, I wouldn't say I was completely naive back then. I was always curious about the world and social justice issues and where my life choices would lead me. But I definitely didn't personally struggle with issues of race, poverty, food insecurity, injustice, prejudice, and on and on. Life for me was easy compared to others who face these major challenges daily. And it still is.

My "struggle" back then -- and still today -- is this: what can *I* do to improve these issues for those who are affected? What can a blonde, green eyed woman from White Bear Lake, Minnesota do to improve race issues? Is it about intent? Sincerity? Doing something, anything? Read/listen/attend/learn more? It's an overwhelming question -- what can *I* do? -- but there's got to be a way to boil it down a bit. Here I go.

Martin Luther King, Jr.'s, message was about peace, freedom and unity. He dreamed of a day when his four little children would "not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character." One of his most powerful messages was, "Life's most persistent and urgent question is: 'What are you doing for others?'"

Okay, that's a good place to start -- what are we doing for others? 

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day is officially a national day of service. The motto is "a day on, not a day off." I'm spending some time today to reflect on new ways to serve others in my community. I'm grateful for my fortunate life and being a good neighbor is crucial as we work to improve life for others. We have to show up. We have to lead by example. We all have work to do.

At age 35, MLK, Jr., was the youngest man to receive the Nobel Peace Prize.

129 examples of community service projects. Jump in!

Editorial: What MLK, Jr. might think of America today.

The mental health benefits of volunteering.

Black history makers mug

Manners, please

This was a gift from my Grandmother for my seventeenth birthday:

My Grandmother was a petite woman with a big personality who deeply loved her family more than anything and we always knew it.  I have great memories of Marjorie Elizabeth Schultz, whose middle name is also mine. 

She had opinions about everything, which I always admired.  And she had a special way of delivering her advice that made clear what she wanted you to know/do, but still with a kindness or humor so you didn't feel scolded. So when I got the Miss Manners book I received it with these same sentiments. Grandma was sharing her knowledge (and expectations) with her granddaughter and I understood how this gift was to be received. And to be clear: my manners and etiquette "training" began long before I turned seventeen.

Manner are behaviors we all know, or should know.  (Sorry, do you feel scolded? Tone can be hard to convey in writing. <wink>)  We are taught these acceptable ways to interact with others from early ages and they are important pillars of a civilized society. Yes I just wrote that. Please keep reading.

It's also very obvious when manners have been ignored, right? It kind of makes you cringe when you witness a bad/no manners situation.

Let's all work to encourage good manners with those around us, shall we? But let's do it in a kind, non-scolding sort of way. Grandma Marge would approve.

Did you know??

When you introduce someone, you should say their name first and their relationship to you second.  Wrong: "This is my sister Jill."  Right: "This is Jill, my sister."

Asparagus is correctly eaten with one's fingers.

 

 

Get your own copy of Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior. It has been "freshly updated" so you'll likely get some additional advice in your newer edition.

Etiquette versus Manners. Here's a primer.

A short history of modern manners, according to a British guy.
Manners have an image problem. This stems in part from a tendency to conflate them with the people who profess to be their most passionate defenders. Even more damagingly, manners are confused with the cramped codes of etiquette, with silly and arbitrary rules about fish knives and the precise length of time one should mourn the passing of a second cousin.

Be the Kind Kind

Of course being kind doesn't require props. But here are some creative ways to express its importance. Cool, right?

Print by beguima on Etsy

Print by Becky Simpson

Organic cotton tshirt on Etsy

Be Kind Vegan Necklace

Youth tshirt by Port 213

Want Ellen's next Be Kind box? Hop to it, these things sell out.

Nice people finish first in business.

Here are the world's kindest countries.

And this is the friendliest creature on the plant.

Enjoy this little throw-back gem from 1998:

You've been so kind and generous

I don't know how you keep on giving
For your kindness, I'm in debt to you

-- "Kind + Generous" by Natalie Merchant

Blank Canvases

It's almost mid-month and I'm still in the "it's January, what should I be doing/thinking/planning for the new year" frame of mind. Walking up to fresh snow this morning put a nice clean blanket on rooftops and lawns. And the new bunny footprints around the garage are pretty cute. (But don't get the impression I like winter, haha.)

My thoughts today are about blank canvases. Taking ideas that are rolling around in my head and getting them into some kind of tangible form. I enjoy new beginnings -- a new planner, a new DIY home project, a new client. But I tend to be more comfortable once things have gotten underway and I have figured out some direction. Blank canvases can be their own kind of barrier to next steps. The pressure to put down that first blob of paint can be excruciating!

That's sort of how I'd describe my blank January canvas. I'm trying to figure out where to blob the paint. I'm looking for new clients, or a different kind of job, or something entirely new. I'm looking to paint a fresh picture of my career ambitions and get grounded in my next new thing. Whatever that might be.

Good luck if you're trying to work through new ideas today. And don't be intimidated by the blank canvas. That's my advice to myself, anyway. Make another french press and keep at it.

Ile de France Landscape by Paul Cezanne

Here are some links to further your procrastination today:

Weird ways to recycle your ski gear.

Try this fresh cocktail recipe to combat winter.

Maybe you just need to get out of dodge!

Are you prepared in case you decide to venture out??

Every six months or so I do a search to make sure bangs are still on-trend. Turns out they're still on the list, phew.

Amazon is the rabbit hole of things I never realized I needed. Here's a helpful list to help you fritter away your entire afternoon. You're welcome.

Kissing Mugs

It's Pronounced Rose-EL

A quick Saturday musing (yay me, day two and I'm still doing it.) 

When I was getting ready to get married, I went round-and-round with myself about my new legal name. I'm a feminist, progressive, was known in professional circles as Kristin Fischer, the last of the "Fischers" in my family lineage... and I liked my name as it was. But I also liked the idea of taking Jesse's last name so we had that connection, our future kids could have parents with the same name, maybe eliminate some confusion. Jesse said it was my choice, though he did like the idea of us having the same last name. So the compromise -- with myself -- was adding Rosel. No hyphen, not making Fischer my middle name, just tacking Rosel on the end. Like Jaqueline Bouvier Kennedy Onassis.

More than a decade later, I'm still good with my decision. It does create some confusion when it comes to health records, prescriptions, some logins. It's not like my name is complicated. And I'm always surprised when there's a struggle to "find me" in a computer database. C'mon, CVS, it's 2020! 

And I'll quickly clarify one thing: I did not add Rosel because I love rosè. It's just a happy coincidence. Côte des Roses is a delicious choice in a beautiful bottle.

Côte des Roses Rosè

More food for thought about changing your name.

The New York Times did this feature on maiden names in 2015.

Those royal kiddos have different last names. Here's why.

Unusual celebrity names are always a fun read. Pretty sure my daughter has a unicorn toy she also named Petal Blossom Rainbow.

From the book, "Uni the Unicorn"

Cannabis-infused rosè. I'm not high, read about this new trend here.

January is about no booze for many. Here are some favorite mocktails by a few fancy bartenders.

Caramel Creme NA Martini

Resolving to do THIS

Hello, World Wide Web! Is that an echo I hear? That's fair. After all, it has been years since I've kept up with you on this blog.

But now I'm back. With renewed energy for this forum, new perspectives to share and new ambitions to pursue. Cheers!

There's a weird pressure to start something "new" with the New Year. For me, I think I'm energized by putting away Christmas decorations. We LOVE Christmas in our house (understatement). But after the January clean-up, areas of the house feel new with space and for about a week rooms are clean. It's a good time to purge closets to make room for the new gifts. And we know there's a solid four months left of winter, so we might as well tackle the indoor projects now.

I also love new planners. Beautiful graphics printed on luxurious heavy papers. And pens, oh how I love a good ink pen. Yes I keep my electronic calendar and depend on the alerts to remember to do most things. But I just love to write out my schedule in the even rows of boxes and carefully craft my to-do lists so I can methodically check things off as I do them.

My core new year goals are the same: stay healthy, keep my family healthy and happy, enjoy moments, have adventures, be kind, help others, tell people I love them...

I'm working on career ambitions now. More on that in a future post. Or several posts. One of the main reasons for writing here again is to work through my ideas about career. I originally started this blog to focus on ideas of creativity in many various forms. I plan to continue that format and evolve my "research" to include creative jobs and other cool professional pursuits. Stay tuned.

Tuscany 2006

Here's a pretty photo from my honeymoon in Italy. It was the start of a new chapter in my life that is now in year 13. Same awesome hubby, two fantastic kids, a perfect dog and two guinea pigs that I'm slowly accepting into our family. Life is so good.

New things coming soon... for real this time!